Mistake #1: Discussing Children With Autism Right in Front of Them
When children are nonverbal, often parents and professionals will discuss the child's progress right in front of the child. This is not proper. No one should assume that simply because a child cannot speak, that they do not understand. Indeed, children with autism often do understand quite well what is being said about them. It is not beneficial nor is it appropriate to discuss a child right in the presence of the child whether the child is nonverbal or verbal.
Mistake #2: Believing Everything Experts Say About Their Child
Specialists, doctors, teachers and other experts do have a base of knowledge. That knowledge should be listened to, thought about and carefully considered. However, no one knows the child as well as the parents do. Therefore, it is imperative that parents ultimately use their own brains and think for themselves when it comes to making decisions for children with autism. Experts can only make recommendations based upon their training and learning, but the parent is the one that understands the unique personality of the child.
Mistake #3: Not Providing Enough Explanations of Events
Sometimes when children with autism are nonverbal, parents gradually stop explaining things to them as much. This is because the child is unable to ask questions directly and the parents do not know that the child requires clarification about upcoming events. Parents of children with autism should adopt the habit of over- explaining rather than under- explaining just in case the child has questions that he is unable to voice. Just because children with autism often cannot voice questions, does not mean that explanations are not important.
The above are some examples of mistakes that are made with children with autism. In order to not make these mistakes, parents may avoid discussing the child in his presence. Parents should also keep an open mind when reviewing with specialists the progress of children with autism. Also, parents can make a habit of providing explanations of events to the children, even when the children cannot ask questions.